Jan 5, 2017
This is an important episode. Terry Brennan, co-founder of
Leading Women for Shared Parenting,
an activist organization responsible for introducing legislation in
20 states, that makes equal, shared parenting the presumption in
family court. This is a critical issue for children, who suffer
from absentee fathers in alarming figures, as well as men, who are
automatically reduced to paychecks and an afterthought in family
life. Shared parenting is critical for women, too, as involved
co-parents, both inside and outside of marriage, mean women have
far more support at home, which allows us to thrive as parents, as
well as professionals and earners. After all, we can't be equals at
work, if men are not equals at home.
In this episode, Terry Brennan shares:
- There are 43 academics papers support shared parenting for
children of divorced or separated parents.
- In cases where 'standard' visitation is awarded —
every-other-weekend — fathers become depressed and non-involved,
and within 3 years, one study found, 40 percent of children in an
unequal visitation arrangement had lost complete touch with their
non-custodial parents, which are nearly always the father.
- Research finds that a minimum of 35 percent of kids' time with
both parent is required to bond with a parent. Anything less robs
children an opportunity to truly bond with the parent.
- Lack of shared parenting linked to every major social pathology
in the United States.
- Extended families of both parents have the right to be
part of children's lives.
- Of course abuse and neglect cases are the exception.
- The shared parenting movement has become mainstream, supported
by as many women as men, with 20 shared parenting bills around the
country, with passed laws in Utah, Missouri, Wyoming and
- "Fathers who get involved from the get-go are far more
involved, while those who are marginalized become distant parents
and are marginalized further."
- If courts stop asking parents to argue for their children, and
start assuming that they are both competent people,
parents form a more amicable and collaborative co-parenting
relationship, which results in more involved fathers and happier
- In Australia, after the implementation of shared parenting laws
nationally, 73 percent fewer parents went to lawyers to resolve
co-parenting issues, and just as many parents sought out counseling
to resolve issues.