Like a Mother








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Earlier this year I interviewed an incredible woman, someone whose work has changed the way I feel about my body, sexuality, gender and life:  Regena Thomashauser, aka Mama Gena, who, through her in-person and online workshops called Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts, and books by the same name, Thomashauser offers a fascinating history on the power of female sensuality and sexuality, biology lessons on female anatomy and the possibilities (and fruits of) hours-long orgasms. 

Our interview, re-released here, hinged on the release of her latest book, Pussy: A Reclamation, which was released a few weeks ago. Leading up to the book launch, I noticed on social media that Thomashauer and her team pleaded with fans to promote her new title, since Facebook banned her doing so, since it contained the lewd word, pussy. I got a little worried for her, knowing full well that paid social media promotion is considered one of the most powerful marketing tools today. How would she get the word out about her work if social media prudes banned it?

Well, ladiues, pussy is powerful, and Pussy, A Reclamation, hit the New York Times bestseller list, not the least of because Mama Gena used this sort of pussy-shaming as an opportunity to explore the sexism and female shaming that shrouds that very word that was banned. 

Then, something magical happened. That's right, just a few days after her book hit the shelves, videos of Donald Trump bragging about grabbing women's pussies became the No. 1 trending topic on Facebook. And pussy, the power of the word, the power of the organ, the power of the femininine and everything that Mama Gena promotes in her new book, was now blurted and bantered in every single mainstream media outlet. 

There you have it: The power of the pussy.

To celebrate this success, and to celebrate your pussy and mine, and to support the candidates who has a pussy, I republished this episode. It was simply delightful to interview Mama Gena, and you need to hear her message"

  • Why “pussy” (and not vagina, vulva, yoo-hoo, or … like my friend grew up calling her, ‘chicken’) and what that word really, truly means.
  • The urgent need for for women everywhere to prioritize the learning of what pleases their every senses — a practice that guarantees  attracting the biggest genuine fulfillment and success in career, parenting, romance, and global domination.
  •  Thomashauser’s own journey as a divorced mother of a young daughter, while dating and building a seven-figure business.
  • Why she appreciates that her first post-divorce love affair — with a remarkable, wealthy, glamorous man who adored her — ended, freeing her to manifest her life’s work.
  • How to nurture your daughters’ sensuality even if you are struggling to nurture your own.
  • Her reaction when I told her I tried to do a word count on “pussy” in the PDF of her new book, but there were too many to tally.
  • The power of PJ (don’t know what PJ is? Hint: it’s pussy juice) and right there in my Times Square studio, two grown women harvested and applied a dab of her own behind her ear.

Want to ask me a question that will be played — and answered! — on-air? Just record it here!

Direct download: LikeaMother_MamaGena_mixdown.mp3
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Anna Akbari, PhD, is a sociologist, stylist, and author of the upcoming book: Startup Your Life: Hustle and Hack Your Way To Happiness (St. Martin's Press, January 2017). Preorder now:

Akbari is more than your garden-variety stylist. She digs deep into your goals, fears and issues, and helps you dress for life you want. Fascinating stuff.

Her book is equally fascinating, yet totally common sense. You know those women and so do I: Brilliant in business and money, disasters in their personal lives. Akbari taps into the entrepreneurship-obsessed zeitgeist and breaks down truisms about Silicon Valley incubation into action steps for how to excel in all parts of your life. Including:

  • Finding the career of your dreams
  • Landing the mate or romantic life you crave
  • Health, money and lifestyle you want and desserve.


Direct download: LAM20Anna20Akbari.mp3
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I see it all the time, and you likely do, too. People fall apart when their marriages end. No matter if it is an amicable, Gweneth Paltro uncoupling, your decision or his, wether there was plenty of money or everyone is now destitute, divorce is trauma. Every single vertical of your life unravels: finance, real estate, the kids of course, and how much you will see them and where. Money is a giant, scary question mark, and your relationships with friends and extended family likely change and are challenged. If you are like I was, your ideas about your own sexuality, identity and future are questioned, and your health can take its toll.

You get a year. A free pass for 12 months to be a freaky weirdo. Drink too much after the kids go to bed. Smoke a few cigarettes at break time with your colleagues. Let the house go, let the dishes pile up in the sink. Hell, might as well preemptively cancel the gym memberships, because you’re not going. Be stinky and oily, and let your pubes hang out of your swimsuit on a public beach in the midwest. Sleep with a bunch of completely inappropriate people and wear things that no one at your age with your body should ever even think about wearing in public. Stay up all night stalking your college boyfriend on Facebook.

You’re good. No judgement here!

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Co-parenting is often one of the hardest — and heart-breaking — parts of being a single mom. In this Like A Mother episode, I tackle common issues and offer results for problems like:

  • The ex who shows up last-minute or unannounced.
  • The ex who cancels last minute.
  • The ex who perpetually shows up late. 
  • What to do with your urge to facilitate a relationship between your kids and their dad, even though he is totally unreasonable and disrespectful of your time.
  • The damage done to your kids when you let your ex mess with your time. 
  • How you let your ex control you by controlling your time (and why you absolutely deserve so much better!)



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I interviewed Marlena Stell for Forbes last year, and we've stayed friends since. This 36-year-old entrepreneur built MakeUp Geek, the once cosmetics blog, now-makeup brand on track for $20 million in sales. Whew!

In this episode, Makeup Geek's Marlena Stell and I discuss:

  • How she went from high school music teacher, to cosmetics mogul (named to Inc.'s 'Fastest Growing Women-Led Companies'), thanks to the then-new YouTube, brutal honesty and being herself in a world of gloss and perfection. 

  • Whaaatt?! Her ex-husband is her COO? She explains how that works. 

  • Why she DOESN'T have a mentor or professional idol.

  • What she does with all her money.

  • How she found her new husband, and balances her role as the breadwinner with her relationship.

  • Biggest mistakes she's made in building Makeup Geek

  • Her advice to aspiring cosmetics entrepreneuers 

  • Whats' next for this woman
  • Why she is always unabashedly honest about the products she reviews (and drugstore brands often beat spendy Sephora labels)

Have a listen ... and check out Makeup Geek's latest products. 

Direct download: LikeaMother_29_Marlena_mixdown.mp3
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I love me some Lauren Greutman! This Rochester, New York mom of four was living the American dream ... 3,500 square-foot custom house, two luxury cars parked in the drive way, new furniture, dinners out ... and $40,000 in credit card debt.

Fast forward through slinging steaks at a local restaurant, selling off everything she and her husband owned, clipping coupons and budgeting like a mo-fo and relocating to a tiny condo in a community, and being shunned by neighborhood moms who lived in big, newly furnished custom homes, this family has chronicled their journey out of debt, thanks to her platform for helping families live a fantastic life within their means — most famously for her slow-cooker Aldi meal plans (20 meals for $150 = mind blown). 

What I love so much about Lauren, is that she is so freaking honest and real. Also, that she has parlayed her passion and authenticity into an incredible, profitable online business, and media appearances on TODAY, Fox & Friends, Rachel Ray Show, Steve Harvey ... you name it. 

In this episode, the hilariously delightful Lauren and I discuss:

  • Her new book, The Recovering Spender: How To Live a Happy, Fulfilled, Debt-Free Life, is really a 12-step program for shopping addicts, like Lauren.
  • How she pulls on her experience as a former drug counselor, as well as grieving the death of her brother to heroin overdose, to help herself and countless others address the very real issue of spending addiction.
  • Those snotty, rich moms in her neighborhood? Turns out they were underwater on their homes and living in the hole — and judging Lauren and her family as they lived within their means (huge life lesson there!).
  • The sad, sad day when her pink Cadillac was repo'd from her driveway ... as a gaggle of teenage boys trailed the tow truck riding their skateboards. 
  • Why she still is wracked with anxiety at the thought of stepping into a Target.
  • What it feels like to live each day knowing there is enough money to cover your basic needs, and reaching your goals.
Direct download: LikeaMother_28_LaurenGreutman2_mixdown.mp3
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Weird, sad and true: One of the most popular WealthySingleMommy posts of all time is this one: You are stupid if you do your own laundry. 

I summary, the post says:

  • Outsource. You can't build financial wealth, control of your time, or a full, joyful life if you are at the mercy of tedious household chores you are overqualified for, and resent.
  • For a tiny monetary premium, you can save yourself  hours and hours of laundry.
  • It's not just the time and money: It is the headspace and energy it takes to think about and manage laundry (and other housework).
  • Why the hell do we have feminism if we're all doing so much freaking laundry?!
  • Outsource that crap, and don't look back. 

But read the comments on You are stupid if you do your own laundry. 

People are SO OFFENDED by this notion! Some gems:

It’s just laziness and stupidity. She just have to put clothes in the machine once in two weeks. It’s not like she needs do wash it by hand. And she is stupid to wash clothes after one wear if they are still clean and smells OK.

I just still don’t see it. It really doesn’t take that long at all. I do it in my FREE TIME and it only takes a minute to throw it in and I talk to my daughter or watch tv for the ten minutes it takes to fold. I don’t have to leave work early to do laundry or anything, so I don’t see how paying someone to do your laundry makes you money.

You’re just a rich stupid [bleep!]!

Okie dokie! Have a listen to this episode of Like a Mother for more on this (surprisingly) contemptuous topic! Dirty socks and tank tops! 

Direct download: LikeaMother_Article19_NoLaundry.mp3
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I'm very proud to partner with LegalZoom to create this episode of Like a Mother. So many followers have asked me about wills and trusts, which are such an important part of finances and life. Astonishingly, 55 percent of Americans don't have a will. LegalZoom is offering Like a Mother listeners $10 off their already discounted prices for estate planning products. Just head to this link for wills, trusts, and other estate planning products, and enter Emma10 promo code. 

In this episode, LegalZoom's Laura Goldberg joins me to answer listeners' questions about:

  • Why a will is so, so important.
  • The expensive, heart-wrenching process that your loved ones face if you don't have a will.
  • How to have those difficult conversations, like guardianship of your kids in the event of your death, with loved ones.
  • The difference between a will and trust.
  • Why even very poor people need a will.
  • The cheapest, easiest, and most personal way to get a will today.
  • What you can learn from Price about the importance of legally securing your legacy.
  • What single parents need to know about estate planning. 
  • Why a living will is one of the most loving gifts you can give people you care about most.


Have a listen, and head to LegalZoom's estate planning tools to take advantage of this limited-time $10 discount for Like a Mother listeners. Remember to enter promo code Emma10.

Then, share your experience: Did someone in your life pass away without a will? How did that affect their loved ones? Or, did a properly-executed will save a family heartache, expense, and time? Share in the comments below! 


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Cindy Gallup wants you to be a great lover. 

The former longtime Bartle Bogle Hegarty ad exec, advocate for women in business, and now sex education entrepreneur, took the world by storm in 2009 with her TED talk, in which she launched her digital sex education site, In that talk, Gallup explained that she realized through sleeping with many younger men, the power that porn has on sex education, and how this education sorely misses in the realities and beauty of human sexuality.

MLNP is not a porn site, Gallup will have you know. While porn — created by and for an almost exclusively male audience — is the fantasy about what sex is, MLNP is in fact real people having real sex, she explains. Each MLNP video has context, just like in real life. Examples are the pregnant woman telling the audience she created a sexy video for her husband, the young travelers who met in South Africa and enjoy each other in their wobbly caravan, or the female friends who, they admit to the camera, sometimes hook up. 

In this episode of Like A Mother, Cindy Gallup and I discuss:

  • The difference between porn and 
  • Why her pro-sex business is facing serious funding issues — despite an 500,000 global audience 
  • What makes you good in bed (and why parents should teach their children these lessons early and often) 
  • Why every mother needs at least one vibrator, and should masturbate every single day.
  • How to talk to your kids about porn — because they will see it, probably much sooner than you want or expect 
  • Why Gallup, age 56, exclusively dates much younger men, how to find these men, and what to do with them once you do find them 
Direct download: LikeaMother_27_CindyGallop_mixdown.mp3
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A few years ago I wrote this post: Why single parents should put kids second when dating. It is by far one of the most trafficked posts on WealthySingleMommy, and one of the most polarizing. And the more I read and write on the topic of single moms and dating, the stronger my stance: In a serious relationship, your romantic partner comes first. 

I meet most men that I date online. It's very common for guys with kids to write in their OKCupid profiles: "My kids come first," or "My daughter is the center of my world!"

I get where you're coming from. You want a potential mate to know that your life includes the giant presence of a kid or four. You also want women to know you're a devoted dad (it's no secret chicks get hot for guys who are great with kids!). Got it. Roger!

But I bristle at those lines. When it comes to relationships, I'm fond of saying, You never really knows what goes on between people. But there are a few couples in my life who I look to as models of the kind of marriage I'd like one day. People who really enjoy each other. Respect and support one another. And in these families, the parents put their relationship before the kids. They are the dynamic centriforce around which the family's life orbits. And everyone thrives as a result.

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